"What’s Going On?" -- By Iyanla Vanzant
If I whisper your name
and you do not respond, my need to get your attention will grow.
Eventually, I will call your name out loud. If you do not hear me or
choose to ignore me, my need to have you pay attention and acknowledge
my presence will be intensified. People have a need to be seen and
heard. How we go about getting the attention we need or desire in any
given moment can be questioned or judged, neither of which lessens the
need.
Unmet needs give rise to a variety of emotions, many of
which are toxic. These needs are often fueled by personal history and
experience. Unmet needs often clash with the energy of the environment
in which they live, giving rise to fear, anger or denial. People need to
feel safe. They need to feel valued.
When people do not feel
seen, heard or important, when they have needs that are dismissed,
ignored or denied, they will do whatever they feel is necessary to get
the attention of those they perceive can give them relief.
A
whisper becomes a call. A call becomes a yell. When a yell does not
yield a response people may pump their fists in the air. When the fists
do not get a response, something will be thrown. If you are hit by what
is thrown, you will respond, not to the initial need, but to the fact
that you got hit.
The need that motivated the whisper remains
unaddressed. The attention is now shifted to what I did rather than what
I needed in the first place.
Whether we are looking at the
Michael Brown case in #Ferguson, the uprising in Egypt two years ago or
Rosa Parks refusing to give up her seat on a bus, there is an outcry of
unmet needs and the experience of feeling unsafe and devalued in this
country that must be acknowledged and addressed.
Couples do it
to each other when they feel everything else has failed. Parents do it
to their children when they are stressed or overwhelmed. Supervisors and
co-workers do it overtly and covertly in ways that are both hurtful and
harmful.
People get angry. When they do, they act out, strike
out and commit acts which, if they are in their “right minds” they would
not do and for which they often feel embarrassed and remorseful. We
live in a world that has done a dismally, ineffective job of teaching
people how to channel or express difficult emotions.
Those who
witness or experience inappropriate emotional expressions often go into
fear, then into judgment, then they expect the worse of you and from
you.
In fact, they prepare for it, escalating the stakes and
diminishing the initial need. Now their need takes priority. There is
something they want from you. They want you to be quiet and go away. Now
it’s about power; who has it and who doesn’t. More difficult emotion to
process; more needs to be met.
When fear is present, vision is obscured.
When anger and rage cloud the mind, reasoning is faulty.
When people are hurt, they fear it will get worse.
When they are angry they look for ways to defuse and disperse the energy.
When people feel their power is challenged they intensify their resistance.
If people feel their power is stolen they act out in anger and despair.
Human
beings pushed to the limit of their experience and capacity to process
what they are feeling will and do act out. They do it in their homes.
They do it on their jobs. When there is no experience of justice, there
can be no peace.
When people feel they are not being heard, they
will do whatever they feel is necessary to get your attention. They did
it in Ferguson, MO. They did it with Occupy Wall Street. They did it in
Selma. It will continue to happen in overt and covert ways until the
needs of people are acknowledged and addressed.
Individually and
collectively, we can attach a variety of reasons, rationales and
judgments to what we have seen in Ferguson. We can agree or disagree. We
can understand or not. What we must not do is deny that the needs of
people in various pockets of this society are being ignored and
dismissed.
It is time to admit that we are ill equipped and
often unwilling to address the difficult truths that are erupting in the
streets through our society.
People are suffering. Many are in
despair. We no longer trust the systems and institutions created to
protect and serve us. The institutions in Ferguson expected the worst
from the people. They expected their power to be challenged. They set it
up and they got just what they expected.
The people expected
the worst from the institutions. They have seen it before. They trusted a
system that has already proven it could not, would not respond their
need for justice. They too got exactly what they expected.
Anything that anyone says in this moment cannot be heard with an open mind or heart.
We
are now taking sides. We are looking at historical, social and personal
perceptions of right and wrong; guilt and innocence; fairness and
unfairness.
The issue is no longer the death of an unarmed
youth. The issue has shifted away from the breakdown of trust and
credibility between police authorities and the people they are entrusted
to protect.
Dare we mention the criminalization and
demonization of African American males throughout this country? Can we,
without fear of reprisal and attack suggest the possibility of the abuse
of power by police authorities? Should we even consider the difficult
job of police officers in cities around the country when it is known
that they are not trusted, often despised, with or without good reason?
Are we to continue ignoring feelings of powerlessness, the need to be
heard and seen; to feel valuable and important when you are poor or
black or gay or elderly or just human? Where exactly are we to look for
healing? What exactly is it that we expect to be healed?
To heal means to make whole again; to restore to original purpose and value.
This
would require that everyone involved become willing to see, acknowledge
and address the real truths that have resulted in more pain, more unmet
needs, greater demonstrations of power and a deeper sense of
powerlessness and despair.
It is possible that we are witnessing
what happens when the very thing that makes us human, our capacity to
think and respond with emotion, is taken lightly or not even considered.
We maybe sitting in the result of moving away from the heart,
the need to feel connected. Perhaps we are being confronted with what
happens when people, who are invisible are allowed into your mind, heart
and home at all hours of the day and night.
One thing for sure, what is being played out on the news is not going away.
History will repeat herself until you understand what she is saying and address it head on.
"What’s Going On?" -- By Iyanla Vanzant
Tuesday, November 25, 2014
Tuesday, October 7, 2014
"I'm BLACKER Than You!" - What Does That Even Mean?!
An actress decided to publicly choose the way she defined herself and what terminology she wanted applied to her...and the "black internet community" lost their ever-loving minds!
Seriously, some black folks completely lost their sh!t - if it weren't so frighteningly appalling, it would be hilarious. But, I digress...
I've been reading some of the commentary made by black men/black women about Raven-Simone and the way she self-identified during an interview with Oprah Winfrey. The multitude of varying opinions are amazing! Some thoughtful. Some ignorant. Some passionate. Some mired in that "crab in a barrel" mentality. Some positive. Some negative. Some racist. Some compassionate. The variety is endless.
I have come to the realization that this is a conversation our community needed to have - it is a requirement!
This is why it's struck such a cord among us. Many of us say, "I'm black and I'm proud!" but there are too many definitions within our community of what "black" means.
FUN FACT: No one person is BLACKER than another person because of how they define themselves!
For some, the definition of what it means to be a black person is so NARROW AND RESTRICTIVE that it doesn't allow us to become more than the color of our skin. Or more than the 'hood we were raised in. Or more than the hustle we engage in to "get by". Or more than the number of baby mamas/daddies we have. These self-definitions make "black" seem like a negative. We are only the stereotypes that have plagued us since slavery.
But, for others, the definition of what it means to be a black person is so BROAD AND FAR-REACHING that it's almost impossible to fit one type of personality/economic background/age group or community within the wide parameters of that definition: Therefore, we are only what we say we are - we are nerds. And geeks. And professionals. And entrepreneurs. And artists. And gays. And heterosexuals. Whatever! These self-definitions make "black" seem like a diverse and multifaceted community that is not easily defined...AND YET ALL OF IT IS STILL "BLACK PEOPLE"!
I have come to understand, that black people don't actually feel comfortable with a wide-range of diverse, multilayered self-definitions of what it means to be "black". We seem to prefer very simple (or simplified) definitions of what it means to be "black", almost like we don't want to think too hard or focus too much on what it really means to be a black person, in America, today. Being a black person in America today does not mean the same "thing" it meant in the past.
As I mentioned, it's good thing we're having this conversation! We don't have to agree with one another but this discussion will help us, as a community, to understand what WE mean when WE 'say', "I am black!" We can then define ourselves - not BE defined by old-world prejudices, stereotypes or the purposeful ignorance of folks who refuse to understand, empathize with or acknowledge our history, culture or communities. WE CAN DEFINE OURSELVES!!! No other input required.
As a community, we are finally beginning to conceptualize, verbalize and understand a simple fact - we can more than just "one thing". We are more than our American history. We are more than our African ancestry. We are more than a people with a history of slavery. We are more than all of the negative implications/ generalizations/ stereotypes/ characterizations that people like to attach to us (that we sometimes attach to ourselves)!
Guess what? We get to choose how we identify ourselves! As individuals. As a community. As a people. The wonderful part about this discussion is, - "nobody is wrong" - when it comes to self-definition! Nobody - even other black people - can tell someone who chooses to self-identify a certain way, what is right and what is wrong!
The simple truth is, whether you agree with Raven-Simone - or not -we needed this discussion! Remember, we can't move toward the future - if the ONLY THING we see is the past. We should NEVER forget our history but WE HAVE GOT TO STOP LIVING IN THE PAST.
Dear Black People: You are who you say you are, you are what your actions show you to be. Nobody can change that. Nobody can truly define you - but YOU!
Nankurunaisa.
Seriously, some black folks completely lost their sh!t - if it weren't so frighteningly appalling, it would be hilarious. But, I digress...
I've been reading some of the commentary made by black men/black women about Raven-Simone and the way she self-identified during an interview with Oprah Winfrey. The multitude of varying opinions are amazing! Some thoughtful. Some ignorant. Some passionate. Some mired in that "crab in a barrel" mentality. Some positive. Some negative. Some racist. Some compassionate. The variety is endless.
I have come to the realization that this is a conversation our community needed to have - it is a requirement!
This is why it's struck such a cord among us. Many of us say, "I'm black and I'm proud!" but there are too many definitions within our community of what "black" means.
FUN FACT: No one person is BLACKER than another person because of how they define themselves!
For some, the definition of what it means to be a black person is so NARROW AND RESTRICTIVE that it doesn't allow us to become more than the color of our skin. Or more than the 'hood we were raised in. Or more than the hustle we engage in to "get by". Or more than the number of baby mamas/daddies we have. These self-definitions make "black" seem like a negative. We are only the stereotypes that have plagued us since slavery.
But, for others, the definition of what it means to be a black person is so BROAD AND FAR-REACHING that it's almost impossible to fit one type of personality/economic background/age group or community within the wide parameters of that definition: Therefore, we are only what we say we are - we are nerds. And geeks. And professionals. And entrepreneurs. And artists. And gays. And heterosexuals. Whatever! These self-definitions make "black" seem like a diverse and multifaceted community that is not easily defined...AND YET ALL OF IT IS STILL "BLACK PEOPLE"!
I have come to understand, that black people don't actually feel comfortable with a wide-range of diverse, multilayered self-definitions of what it means to be "black". We seem to prefer very simple (or simplified) definitions of what it means to be "black", almost like we don't want to think too hard or focus too much on what it really means to be a black person, in America, today. Being a black person in America today does not mean the same "thing" it meant in the past.
As I mentioned, it's good thing we're having this conversation! We don't have to agree with one another but this discussion will help us, as a community, to understand what WE mean when WE 'say', "I am black!" We can then define ourselves - not BE defined by old-world prejudices, stereotypes or the purposeful ignorance of folks who refuse to understand, empathize with or acknowledge our history, culture or communities. WE CAN DEFINE OURSELVES!!! No other input required.
As a community, we are finally beginning to conceptualize, verbalize and understand a simple fact - we can more than just "one thing". We are more than our American history. We are more than our African ancestry. We are more than a people with a history of slavery. We are more than all of the negative implications/ generalizations/ stereotypes/ characterizations that people like to attach to us (that we sometimes attach to ourselves)!
Guess what? We get to choose how we identify ourselves! As individuals. As a community. As a people. The wonderful part about this discussion is, - "nobody is wrong" - when it comes to self-definition! Nobody - even other black people - can tell someone who chooses to self-identify a certain way, what is right and what is wrong!
The simple truth is, whether you agree with Raven-Simone - or not -we needed this discussion! Remember, we can't move toward the future - if the ONLY THING we see is the past. We should NEVER forget our history but WE HAVE GOT TO STOP LIVING IN THE PAST.
Dear Black People: You are who you say you are, you are what your actions show you to be. Nobody can change that. Nobody can truly define you - but YOU!
Nankurunaisa.
Saturday, June 7, 2014
"HumbleBrag: Do you even oxymoron, bro?"
HumbleBrag: Who? What?! Do you even oxymoron, bro? This humble brag social-media "phenomenon" seems like a load of crap to me. Seriously.
Let me test my understanding of the definition: Someone mentions a situation/circumstance directly related to a personal-accomplishment/completed goal - they're are purposefully and slyly bragging? And it's called a "humble brag"?! Ummm. Okay. Weird.
Obvious Question: Even if this definition of "humble brag" were true - so what? Forgive my crass language but I don't sh!t what you eat, right? Soooo..."Humblebrag" (or just share your success) all you want! I'd applaud your efforts! Who wouldn't?
The underlying assumption to this "humble brag" thought process seems to dictate if someone is describing/discussing a positive personal accomplishment or completed goal - its delivery is meant to make the listener feel somehow "less"? Why? No one can make you feel like "less", unless YOU already believe that about yourself! Duh. The root of this, "you must be bragging" mentality, is a personal self-esteem issue. The fruit of which is envy, jealousy and the complete inability to share positivity without it being tainted by negativity. You can't be happy about someone else's happiness? And that's heavy, man. Who wants to carry all that weight? I don't.
Frankly, if men or women feel like "less" because they're listening to stories of OTHER folks success/accomplishments/completed goals/travels - perhaps there are deeper issues to contend with than thinking everyone is "bragging". Yeah. Get that looked at, there may be an ointment for it. <laughing> Ah well. Whatever. I'm babblin'. Again. Carry on.
Nankurunaisa.
Post Script: Dear Reader, if ever I offend your sensibility with (what YOU might consider as) "humble bragging" - I apologize, in advance. It was never my intention. Feel free to unfriend, unfollow, uncircle and/or block me. I won't change, it's really just my nature to live life with a distinct disregard of those folks who have many opinions but NO input in my life. They don't participate in my failure so they won't participate in my success - accept via social media posts. Oops. If you find my posts offensive or "bragging", in any way...<laughing>...you may want to remove yourself from that which offends you. God speed.
Let me test my understanding of the definition: Someone mentions a situation/circumstance directly related to a personal-accomplishment/completed goal - they're are purposefully and slyly bragging? And it's called a "humble brag"?! Ummm. Okay. Weird.
Obvious Question: Even if this definition of "humble brag" were true - so what? Forgive my crass language but I don't sh!t what you eat, right? Soooo..."Humblebrag" (or just share your success) all you want! I'd applaud your efforts! Who wouldn't?
The underlying assumption to this "humble brag" thought process seems to dictate if someone is describing/discussing a positive personal accomplishment or completed goal - its delivery is meant to make the listener feel somehow "less"? Why? No one can make you feel like "less", unless YOU already believe that about yourself! Duh. The root of this, "you must be bragging" mentality, is a personal self-esteem issue. The fruit of which is envy, jealousy and the complete inability to share positivity without it being tainted by negativity. You can't be happy about someone else's happiness? And that's heavy, man. Who wants to carry all that weight? I don't.
Frankly, if men or women feel like "less" because they're listening to stories of OTHER folks success/accomplishments/completed goals/travels - perhaps there are deeper issues to contend with than thinking everyone is "bragging". Yeah. Get that looked at, there may be an ointment for it. <laughing> Ah well. Whatever. I'm babblin'. Again. Carry on.
Nankurunaisa.
Post Script: Dear Reader, if ever I offend your sensibility with (what YOU might consider as) "humble bragging" - I apologize, in advance. It was never my intention. Feel free to unfriend, unfollow, uncircle and/or block me. I won't change, it's really just my nature to live life with a distinct disregard of those folks who have many opinions but NO input in my life. They don't participate in my failure so they won't participate in my success - accept via social media posts. Oops. If you find my posts offensive or "bragging", in any way...<laughing>...you may want to remove yourself from that which offends you. God speed.
Saturday, April 5, 2014
What does love look like? To me?
What does love look like?
Hell, I don't even know if there is a simple description for this - it will "look" different for each of us - not wrong just different.
I guess a better, more specific question would be, "What does love look like to me?"
I know exactly what love looks like...to me and for me. It doesn't have to be a diamond as big as my head, a sexy car or even an object at all, although "things" are nice and can convey a warm intention in the form of gifts.
To me, love "looks" like action - love is doing. It's a verb. Love is a feeling that is best expressed as action. I can't describe what it "looks" like, per se...but I can show you through my actions.
It can be uploading the newest episode of someones' favorite show. It can be rubbing their tummy when it's sore. It can be listening with a compassionate ear when someone is venting about life, work or whatever. It can be offering a back rub when someone needs it. It can be buying a box of someones' favorite cereal. It can be a warm hug when someone is tired or stressed.
This is what love looks like to me and much like rare, fine art - I want collect it, keep it near to admire it regularly and share it's beauty with others. It really is the little things that matter most, ya'll - small gestures that acknowledge and affirm.
In the grand scheme of things, these little things get frequently over-shadowed by life's "bigger issues"- but to me - those small, gentle reminders of being loved are what fuels my tank. It's why I continue to get out of bed to "fight the good fight" in this world. It's why I try. It's all pretty f'awesome, actually.
Nankurunaisa.
#AllUpInMyFeels
#FeelsTrip
Hell, I don't even know if there is a simple description for this - it will "look" different for each of us - not wrong just different.
I guess a better, more specific question would be, "What does love look like to me?"
I know exactly what love looks like...to me and for me. It doesn't have to be a diamond as big as my head, a sexy car or even an object at all, although "things" are nice and can convey a warm intention in the form of gifts.
To me, love "looks" like action - love is doing. It's a verb. Love is a feeling that is best expressed as action. I can't describe what it "looks" like, per se...but I can show you through my actions.
It can be uploading the newest episode of someones' favorite show. It can be rubbing their tummy when it's sore. It can be listening with a compassionate ear when someone is venting about life, work or whatever. It can be offering a back rub when someone needs it. It can be buying a box of someones' favorite cereal. It can be a warm hug when someone is tired or stressed.
This is what love looks like to me and much like rare, fine art - I want collect it, keep it near to admire it regularly and share it's beauty with others. It really is the little things that matter most, ya'll - small gestures that acknowledge and affirm.
In the grand scheme of things, these little things get frequently over-shadowed by life's "bigger issues"- but to me - those small, gentle reminders of being loved are what fuels my tank. It's why I continue to get out of bed to "fight the good fight" in this world. It's why I try. It's all pretty f'awesome, actually.
Nankurunaisa.
#AllUpInMyFeels
#FeelsTrip
Tuesday, March 25, 2014
It's Your Life, Right?! LIVE IT!
I can't understand folks.
It boggles my mind when folks allow pricked-ego, bruised-pride or a jealous-heart to infect their perceptions of and behaviors with, other people.
All we "see" is the end-result of their" success" or what they want us to "see". We really don't know what someone has had to overcome or endure to be where they are or have what they've acquired, in life. We haven't a clue.
This is why it's so very important to understand that YOUR journey is YOURS and MY journey is MINE.
Your success is whatever you define it to be, as is mine.
It's not a race OR competition.
It's life. LIVE IT!
Nankurunaisa!
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
No Monarchy Necessary! Put Down The Crown!
Ladies and gentleman. Men and Women! Hear YE! Hear YE!!! Please! Put DOWN your crowns. We don't need to be "Kings" and "Queens", being people is enough. Seriously, though...monarchies are not needed in our homes, communities or relationships. We're okay without it. We're good.
I'm always curious about the frequently used "King" and "Queen" title. In my early 20s, I oftentimes described a desire to be 'TREATED like a Queen'. My focus, general meaning and ultimate goal was to interact in my relationships with pleasant civility, mutual respect and due deference - describing "queen-treatment" was the easiest way to quickly convey that desired behavior.
Sidebar: I frequently fell short of that goal but was always searching for it. <laughs> A girl has gotta try, right?! LOLZ!!! Anywho...
Recently, I have seen folks taking this "King"/"Queen" title to an extreme, using the title as though they considered themselves actually crowned. The focus seems less about receiving a desired behavior and more about a false sense of grandeur - a seemingly underlying desire to feel important in a way the denotes being above or better than others. Why?
This isn't about taking folks down a peg or tellin' folks what to call themselves. I'm genuinely curious. It's an actual fact, the majority of us are not monarchy. We are simply men and women - flawed and imperfect. And that should be okay. It should be enough. Right?! Apparently, not. It's obviously not enough to just be a man or woman. Why?
Are any of those that refer to themselves as "Kings" and "Queens" actually ruling a kingdom? And if so, how fairs your "kingdom"? Actual Kings and Queens during medieval times enjoyed many perks because they had the RESPONSIBILITY of ruling. Everyone seems to want the title of King or Queen but few accept the weigh of that crown. And fewer still are actually capable of wearing it.
All this "ROYALTY" running around our communities and yet the divorce rates continue to climb, broken families litter the 'castles' in many of these "kingdoms" and more often than not, men/women are at odds with one another to the point of being combative - some monarchs we are, huh? <laughs>
...some of these "Kings" are populating many households in the 'kingdom' with children yet aren't actually ruling or leading anything. They want to SIT on the throne (because their penis, apparently, gives them the right) and enjoy all the benefits but won't EARN their place to STAY there by GIVING unconditionally to the folks that have trusted in them to lead. There's a lot of "respect me and my crown/I'm the head of the household" and not enough, "how can I respectfully lead those that have entrusted me with their welfare and well-being".
...some of these "Queens" are better at berating the "King", aggressively pointing out his errors while minimizing her own and dominating those in the castle rather than gently leading-by-example the appropriate way to govern. They want folks to acknowledge their accomplishments but won't SUBMIT, RESPECT or BE LEAD BY a true servant-leader-style" King". There's a lot of "respect me/I wear the pants 'cause men ain't shit and I don't trust them" and not enough, "how can I best lead-by-example. How can I serve those in my care".
I'm all for empowerment, for identifying oneself in a way the encourages self-esteem, self-respect and love-for-self but this whole, "Kings" and "Queens" titling doesn't seem to be aiding or uplifting our communities. We seem to be setting ourselves up for failure by not navigating in the world in which we actually live.
Frankly, if one is claiming the "King"/"Queen" title, doesn't the full weight of RESPONSIBILITY, ACCOUNTABILITY and LEADERSHIP come with that fictitious crown? Better yet - how come being an equal partner in a fair, healthy, committed, long-lasting relationship is NOT enough?
[This "Food for Thought and Consideration" Blog has been expanded from its original format, with new content to fully-flesh the ideas described within.]
Nankurunaisa!
I'm always curious about the frequently used "King" and "Queen" title. In my early 20s, I oftentimes described a desire to be 'TREATED like a Queen'. My focus, general meaning and ultimate goal was to interact in my relationships with pleasant civility, mutual respect and due deference - describing "queen-treatment" was the easiest way to quickly convey that desired behavior.
Sidebar: I frequently fell short of that goal but was always searching for it. <laughs> A girl has gotta try, right?! LOLZ!!! Anywho...
Recently, I have seen folks taking this "King"/"Queen" title to an extreme, using the title as though they considered themselves actually crowned. The focus seems less about receiving a desired behavior and more about a false sense of grandeur - a seemingly underlying desire to feel important in a way the denotes being above or better than others. Why?
This isn't about taking folks down a peg or tellin' folks what to call themselves. I'm genuinely curious. It's an actual fact, the majority of us are not monarchy. We are simply men and women - flawed and imperfect. And that should be okay. It should be enough. Right?! Apparently, not. It's obviously not enough to just be a man or woman. Why?
Are any of those that refer to themselves as "Kings" and "Queens" actually ruling a kingdom? And if so, how fairs your "kingdom"? Actual Kings and Queens during medieval times enjoyed many perks because they had the RESPONSIBILITY of ruling. Everyone seems to want the title of King or Queen but few accept the weigh of that crown. And fewer still are actually capable of wearing it.
All this "ROYALTY" running around our communities and yet the divorce rates continue to climb, broken families litter the 'castles' in many of these "kingdoms" and more often than not, men/women are at odds with one another to the point of being combative - some monarchs we are, huh? <laughs>
...some of these "Kings" are populating many households in the 'kingdom' with children yet aren't actually ruling or leading anything. They want to SIT on the throne (because their penis, apparently, gives them the right) and enjoy all the benefits but won't EARN their place to STAY there by GIVING unconditionally to the folks that have trusted in them to lead. There's a lot of "respect me and my crown/I'm the head of the household" and not enough, "how can I respectfully lead those that have entrusted me with their welfare and well-being".
...some of these "Queens" are better at berating the "King", aggressively pointing out his errors while minimizing her own and dominating those in the castle rather than gently leading-by-example the appropriate way to govern. They want folks to acknowledge their accomplishments but won't SUBMIT, RESPECT or BE LEAD BY a true servant-leader-style" King". There's a lot of "respect me/I wear the pants 'cause men ain't shit and I don't trust them" and not enough, "how can I best lead-by-example. How can I serve those in my care".
I'm all for empowerment, for identifying oneself in a way the encourages self-esteem, self-respect and love-for-self but this whole, "Kings" and "Queens" titling doesn't seem to be aiding or uplifting our communities. We seem to be setting ourselves up for failure by not navigating in the world in which we actually live.
Frankly, if one is claiming the "King"/"Queen" title, doesn't the full weight of RESPONSIBILITY, ACCOUNTABILITY and LEADERSHIP come with that fictitious crown? Better yet - how come being an equal partner in a fair, healthy, committed, long-lasting relationship is NOT enough?
[This "Food for Thought and Consideration" Blog has been expanded from its original format, with new content to fully-flesh the ideas described within.]
Nankurunaisa!
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